Choosing another family to raise your baby is an act of love that takes so much strength and courage. If you’re an expectant parent, no decision will be harder to make. Even if you know without a doubt this is the right decision for you and your child, you may wonder if you can really place them in the arms of another when the time comes. You may feel alone or scared about what the future holds for both of you. Sometimes the strength we need simply comes from knowing we are not alone. That is why the words from others who have experienced the adoption process themselves are so important.
Below are some quotes from birth mothers who have been in your shoes and know what you are going through—women who have faced an unplanned pregnancy and created an adoption plan for their child and understand the conflicting emotions you’re feeling because they’ve experienced them all. Plus, words of hope from now-grown adoptees whose birth parents placed them for adoption and are full of gratitude for the life they gave them. Their words can be helpful as both a reminder of the decision you’ve made to place your baby for adoption and a validation of why you’ve made it.
Whatever your decision, we pray these quotes and messages of hope bring you comfort and encouragement—and that at the very least they help you feel a little less alone during the adoption process.
Words of encouragement from birth mothers:
“I felt more love for my baby than I had ever experienced before. But I found that the more I loved him, the more I wanted to find out what would be best for him throughout his entire life. The things I wanted most for him (a stable family with a mother and father, a home to live in, a mother who could stay at home with him, financial security, etc.) were things I could not provide. So it was because I loved him so much that I chose adoption.”
“I once heard a girl who had decided to parent her child say, ‘My baby’s the best thing that ever happened to me.’ I believed her. But I wanted to ask, ‘Are you the best thing that could’ve happened to your baby?’ . . . Had I loved (my son) any less—one ounce less—he would be with me now! My love for him was the only thing that could enable me to break my own heart. I didn’t just feel love, I did what love dictated.”
“If you love someone unconditionally and with your whole heart then you will do what is best for them, not you. I have never learned a harder lesson than placing my child for adoption. And I probably never will.”
“Making the decision to place my son for adoption was the hardest thing I have done in my life! But even through it all—the pain, the despair, the grief—I have calm in my decision.
“This is not a decision to be made lightly. This is not a ‘cool, trendy thing’ that society is trying to portray. This is not casual even if the relationship was. This is about stepping into the greatest role given to a woman. This is about watching your body do the most amazing and miraculous thing that only you can do. This is about life.”
Messages of hope from adoptees:
“Being adopted doesn’t mean no one loved me. It means that I am always loved by the one who gave me life and the one who is watching me go through it.”
“Life to me has never been ordinary. I wake up every day in full understanding that my birth mother did not have to make this choice, that often times the world makes it much easier to make a different choice that would’ve prevented me from living life at all. Every day my life is a little sweeter because of the realities that I am a freaking MIRACLE who is loved beyond all measure by some pretty amazing people. Your choices matter, you matter, your child matters, and the future you both have ahead of you matters. You are here because of love, and while the choices you are making now may feel like they will be coming to an end soon, I promise you that this is only the beginning. Because together you are adoption, and adoption is powerful. Someday your child will be unable to find the words to thank you, because those words don’t exist.”
Encouraging quotes from people throughout history:
“A mother’s love for her child is like no other love. To be able to put that feeling aside because you want the best for your child is the most unselfish thing I know.” —unknown
“Only God can turn a mess into a message, a test into a testimony, a trial into a triumph, a victim into a victory.” —unknown
“Nothing you do for children is ever wasted.” —Garrison Keillor
“Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.” —Corrie Ten Boom
“It hurt because it mattered.” —John Green
“Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind. The goal is to find it.” —Buddha
The many birth mothers who have used A Guardian Angel Adoptions to help them make their adoption plan would tell you that the hardest thing they’ve ever done is place their baby in the arms of another. But even in their grief, they have found hope and peace in their situation. They now see the blessings that come because of their brave and loving choice. Hang in there, beautiful you. If adoption is the decision you are making for your child, we are here to help you find that peace and those blessings too.