Not For The Faint of Heart
I’ve been told, “Wow, how would that be? To just take a baby home from the hospital, and not even be pregnant! We should adopt-that is so much easier!” I’ve got news for you-just because you’re not experiencing pregnancy, doesn’t mean that adoption is easy! Although each experience is different, adopting can be a really hard, emotional time.
For many families who adopt, they have already experienced infertility, miscarriages, expensive medical treatments, and still no baby.Often times they carry a private anguish about the baby that has been dreamed of, but has never come to their family.
When we began the process, we were so hopeful. And yet the road to adoption can be filled with small disappointments. There were many situations where we were not chosen by the birthmom. We were chosen for a situation-and then the birthmom decided to parent. It was a very painful experience.
We have also had three experiences which ended beautifully, and we brought home three sweet little babies.
For those of you beginning the process, or those who are ‘in the thick of it,’ be prepared-it can be very emotional! I have experienced both pregnancy and adoption. For me, pregnancy was hard physically, but adoption was really hard emotionally. Being pregnant changed my body, but once that baby was born, I knew I was taking her home. With adoption, everything is very tentative. It can be very nerve wracking. If you are ready to begin the adoption process, remember-it is an exciting time, full of highs and lows, but definitely not for the faint of heart.