Adoption Options for Unplanned Pregnancy
So… you are an expecting mother experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. You may have just found out about your pregnancy, or you may have known for a while now. You may be feeling shock, sadness and fear, maybe a little bit of desperation. You are in a difficult place with difficult decisions that lie ahead. These are all normal emotions and feelings. Having a plan for your future and the future of your precious baby can help you feel more at ease with your situation. At A Guardian Angel Adoptions, we are always here for you. If you just need someone to talk and weigh your options with or need someone to help you make an adoption plan customized just for you we are here 24/7.
As you begin to share the news of your unplanned pregnancy with friends and family, they may have opinions about how you should move forward. Some may suggest you have an abortion, and others will think you should parent your child. It can be overwhelming to sort out all of your options. In this blog we will address some of your options as well as the possible effects you may experience.
Your 1st option may be parenting. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
Do you feel ready to be a mom?
Do you already have children and feel stressed about parenting another child?
Do you have career or education plans that parenting a child may interrupt?
Do you feel like you have the support you need to parent?
Is the birth father of your baby willing to be in a stable and committed relationship with you and to commit to providing financially for you and your baby?
Are you financially able to provide for your baby for the next 18 years?
Your 2nd option may be abortion. Here are some things to consider:
We now know that abortion has harmful side effects to the mother as well as taking the life of her unborn child. Some things women have reported are increased drug and alcohol use, flashbacks, and anniversary reactions, feeling suicidal, feeling your life is out of control, difficulty in maintaining relationships, and physical problems even the inability to conceive a child in the future.
Your 3rd option could be adoption. What is the adoption or placing your child for adoption?
Adoption is when a mother lovingly chooses a family to raise her child for her when she feels she cannot. Adoption is when a family takes a child into their home and raises them as their own. Adoption is a safe and loving alternative for you and your baby and a loving choice for an unplanned pregnancy.
If you had a magic wand and could make all your dreams come true, what are the things you would wish for your baby and for the upcoming life ahead of them?
Would you like them to have a stable and loving home in a safe neighborhood?
Would you like them to have a mother and a father?
Would you like them to have financial stability with the opportunity to have a great education and attend college in the future?
Would you like them to be able to participate in sports and music or dance lessons?
Here are some other reasons women choose adoption:
Hiding your pregnancy? Adoption is a confidential alternative. Your information is kept completely confidential. You never need to worry about “word getting out” about your situation.
Do you have an open case with CPS? We can help. We have experience working with CPS and if you have an adoption plan in place you can choose a family for your child and prevent them from going into foster care.
Do you have a problem with drugs or alcohol? We can help with that too. We have a completely nonjudgmental staff and families that are completely willing and excited to welcome that child with drug or alcohol exposure into their family.
Legal issues? On parole, probation or serving a sentence of some sort? We are qualified to help you as well. We have worked with the legal system many times to help expectant mothers make adoption plans.
In an abusive relationship and need to get away? We have safe and comfortable housing. We have apartments and condominiums that are clean and comfortable near shopping and entertainment areas.
Homeless? We can assist you with pregnancy related expenses. When you come to us, we cover all of your travel expenses, living expenses as well as legal and medical care. In most cases we can also help you with six weeks postpartum recovery expenses.
If you choose adoption for you and your baby, care should be taken to choose the right agency for you. Adoption options are as many as there are expecting mothers. Make sure you receive all the options and support that are there for you. When choosing an agency you should look into these items.
Make sure that the agency is reputable and is licensed by their state.
Make sure that you are able to choose your family and that those families are carefully screened. A Guardian Angel Adoptions has many carefully screened many adoptive families available for you to choose from. Our adoptive families are anxiously awaiting the arrival of a little one that they have waited and prayed for. Most of our families are hoping to have a more open adoption with you, sharing pictures, letters, calls and even visits so you can watch your baby grow up.
And make sure to check out the services provided for you. When you are placing a child for adoption a reputable agency should provide you with adoption planning, travel, housing, groceries, utilities, maternity clothing, medical expenses, as well as legal counsel. A very important part of your adoption plan should be to receive counseling, before, during and after your placement. As a Birth Mother this is a must and will help you process your grief and more smoothly transition into your future. Your adoption agency should also help you with communication with your adoptive family in the coming years if desired.
Placing a child for adoption is not easy but is a selfless and honorable decision, blessing you, your child and an adoptive family. You deserve all the support a great adoption agency can offer you.
If you are an expectant mother experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and think an adoption plan may be right for you, reach out to our caring staff and they can help you further explore your options. If after speaking with us and learning about your adoption options if you would like, we can help you create an adoption plan especially for you. A Guardian Angel Adoptions has served hundreds of expectant mothers experiencing unplanned pregnancies. Our knowledgeable and caring staff can help guide you through any situation you may be facing and can help you every step of the way. At A Guardian Angel Adoptions, we want you to know you are never alone.